Non-Judgement, Contrast and Co-Creation

Today I will judge nothing that occurs - ACIM

The contrast is necessary for the focus - Abraham Hicks 

Practicing non-judgement can really bring a divine peace into your life. But can we practice non-judgement while still being able to observe the contrast of that which we do not want, so that we can better see the things we do want. For the sake of co-creating our lives? 

Is there a way to truly be, just the observer, but still manifest the desires of the heart? While being in a place of non-judging awareness, things just seem to flow. Then, something happens, and you get a feeling inside your soul, telling you that something is happening that you don't particularly like. But with non-judgement awareness, you remove any labels of contrast (good or bad, right or wrong). 

God created you to create. You cannot extend his kingdom until you know of it's wholeness. - ACIM

So without the contrast, how will we know what to reach for, in terms of creating the reality in which we wish to experience?

Perhaps we should consider the whole experience, without judgement, then proceed with love and allow for a different outcome to manifest.